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Re: The VENT Thread

Posted: Sun Dec 24, 2017 6:25 pm
by starrydreamer
Well, this has to rank as one of the worst Christmases yet.

Kid's cough got worse, so we took him to the ER on Tuesday and he was promptly admitted. He kept getting worse in the med/surg wing, so they put him in the pediatric ICU and sedated him so they could put a full-face bipap mask on him. I think he scared them because his co2 level was so high, it'd put regular people in a coma. The full-face bipap mask scared the daylights out of him - he was sedated but still managing to go full hulk-rage. He's doing better now but still in the PICU and definitely not coming home in time for Christmas.

To make things worse, I have norovirus. I was at the hospital two days ago, then started throwing up. Had to call my poor husband back, then threw up again on my walk from my son's room to my car. I was basically bedridden yesterday. Climbing back to life now. I did manage to lose 10 lbs, so hey. Silver lining. I've stayed away from the hospital because that's the last thing my kid needs, but man. It sucks.

Re: The VENT Thread

Posted: Sun Dec 24, 2017 8:07 pm
by BaroqueAgain1
So sorry. :(
I really hope you all get stockings stuffed full of good health for the holiday. Especially for your little one. Sick AND scared is no way to spend Christmas.

Re: The VENT Thread

Posted: Wed Jan 03, 2018 11:37 am
by stark
The awards shows are just around the corner, Golden Globes are Sunday night and I'd really like to enjoy them, then the Academy Awards in March.

Rather, I fear the winners will take their moment in time to make political statements that I haven't liked since Marlon Brando opted out of accepting the Godfather award in favor of telling us about Indian history.

I don't like it, I put Meryl Streep in the same category along with Colin Kaepernick.....you might have a good message, but I can't hear you, it's not what I tuned in to see. This is the wrong time, wrong place to be telling me how I should be thinking about stuff much larger than your movie or game.

Just like some folks use the mute button while watching TVG, I guess that's what I'll have to resort to, or just skip the darn things altogether. Heck, do they realize I'd watch their fixed awards show if they were gracious, thanked their staff, the fans, peers etc. tell us a funny story from on the set, what's so wrong with that?

Mondays are a good day for protesting and making political speeches. Meryl, Colin et al, grab a picket sign and join the crowd, you'll make the nightly news!

Re: The VENT Thread

Posted: Wed Jan 03, 2018 12:46 pm
by starrydreamer
I'm not surprised that this is your position, and it shouldn't be surprising that I wholeheartedly disagree. I know a lot of people who share your position, though, and it is a valid one. Actors and athletes are primarily entertainers, after all. They should entertain us.

However, in a society that puts entertainers on pedestals, why shouldn't entertainers use their high status to try to make society a better place? They're also citizens - they have as much a right to speak out about causes important to them as anyone else. Whether it's Sarah McLachlan and her ASPCA commercials, Pamela Anderson and PETA, Colin Kapaernick and police brutality toward blacks, or Clint Eastwood talking to an empty chair at the Republican National Convention, they all have the right to use the microphones that get shoved into their faces so often to talk about things important to them. Maybe it'll make us all care a little bit more, too.

If you don't like it, then don't watch. Either follow the winners in real time, or watch and then mute the acceptance speeches and read a book until they're done.

Re: The VENT Thread

Posted: Wed Jan 03, 2018 12:51 pm
by Somnambulist
starrydreamer wrote:I'm not surprised that this is your position, and it shouldn't be surprising that I wholeheartedly disagree. I know a lot of people who share your position, though, and it is a valid one. Actors and athletes are primarily entertainers, after all. They should entertain us.

However, in a society that puts entertainers on pedestals, why shouldn't entertainers use their high status to try to make society a better place? They're also citizens - they have as much a right to speak out about causes important to them as anyone else. Whether it's Sarah McLachlan and her ASPCA commercials, Pamela Anderson and PETA, Colin Kapaernick and police brutality toward blacks, or Clint Eastwood talking to an empty chair at the Republican National Convention, they all have the right to use the microphones that get shoved into their faces so often to talk about things important to them. Maybe it'll make us all care a little bit more, too.

If you don't like it, then don't watch. Either follow the winners in real time, or watch and then mute the acceptance speeches and read a book until they're done.
It's pretty hysterical watching a bunch of rich white people like Streep tell everyone that they aren't liberal enough when there is just no way in hell she didn't know about Harvey Weinstein.

Re: The VENT Thread

Posted: Wed Jan 03, 2018 12:57 pm
by starrydreamer
Somnambulist wrote:
It's pretty hysterical watching a bunch of rich white people like Streep tell everyone that they aren't liberal enough when there is just no way in hell she didn't know about Harvey Weinstein.
Hah, true.

However, it shouldn't matter if you're liberal or not when it comes to pervasive sexual harassment and abuse.

Re: The VENT Thread

Posted: Wed Jan 03, 2018 1:04 pm
by Somnambulist
starrydreamer wrote:
Somnambulist wrote:
It's pretty hysterical watching a bunch of rich white people like Streep tell everyone that they aren't liberal enough when there is just no way in hell she didn't know about Harvey Weinstein.
Hah, true.

However, it shouldn't matter if you're liberal or not when it comes to pervasive sexual harassment and abuse.
Well duh! :D

Re: The VENT Thread

Posted: Wed Jan 03, 2018 3:52 pm
by stark
starrydreamer wrote:I'm not surprised that this is your position, and it shouldn't be surprising that I wholeheartedly disagree. I know a lot of people who share your position, though, and it is a valid one. Actors and athletes are primarily entertainers, after all. They should entertain us.

Just maybe "a lot of people" are right?,

Speaking of Meryl Streep, for the life of me I can't understand her role in life now. Worth a reported $90 million dollars, why shouldn't she follow her passion, not that many people have that opportunity in life. It is abundantly clear that politics is her passion and as a Yale graduate I'm confident she'd be a first ballot House Of Representatives electee from California where she could work towards her goals of making this a better world.

I mean really, in the scheme of life how important is recreating the life of Margaret Thatcher, Miranda Priestly or Julia Childs on the bigscreen? Why not roll up your sleeves and put your ideas into action? This is your life, it ain't no dress rehearsal for the next one, you've got 10 maybe 15 years left to contribute.

Maybe she'd pave the way for Rosie and Whoopi to the White House?

"Maybe it'll make us all care a little bit more"

Re: The VENT Thread

Posted: Wed Jan 03, 2018 7:06 pm
by starrydreamer
stark wrote:
starrydreamer wrote:I'm not surprised that this is your position, and it shouldn't be surprising that I wholeheartedly disagree. I know a lot of people who share your position, though, and it is a valid one. Actors and athletes are primarily entertainers, after all. They should entertain us.

Just maybe "a lot of people" are right?,
I also know a lot of people who agree with me, too. So, yknow.

Have you ever thought that maybe Meryl Streep IS following her passion (acting)? Why aren't YOU in politics if you're omniscient?

I don't know why I bother to respond to you seriously when you have such an air of superiority in your posts.

Re: The VENT Thread

Posted: Wed Jan 03, 2018 7:35 pm
by Katewerk
Somnambulist wrote:
It's pretty hysterical watching a bunch of rich white people like Streep tell everyone that they aren't liberal enough when there is just no way in hell she didn't know about Harvey Weinstein.
$hertoo

Re: The VENT Thread

Posted: Wed Jan 03, 2018 10:52 pm
by Ballerina
stark wrote:The awards shows are just around the corner, Golden Globes are Sunday night and I'd really like to enjoy them, then the Academy Awards in March.

Rather, I fear the winners will take their moment in time to make political statements that I haven't liked since Marlon Brando opted out of accepting the Godfather award in favor of telling us about Indian history.

I don't like it, I put Meryl Streep in the same category along with Colin Kaepernick.....you might have a good message, but I can't hear you, it's not what I tuned in to see. This is the wrong time, wrong place to be telling me how I should be thinking about stuff much larger than your movie or game.

Just like some folks use the mute button while watching TVG, I guess that's what I'll have to resort to, or just skip the darn things altogether. Heck, do they realize I'd watch their fixed awards show if they were gracious, thanked their staff, the fans, peers etc. tell us a funny story from on the set, what's so wrong with that?

Mondays are a good day for protesting and making political speeches. Meryl, Colin et al, grab a picket sign and join the crowd, you'll make the nightly news!
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Re: The VENT Thread

Posted: Thu Jan 04, 2018 12:36 pm
by starrydreamer
Katewerk wrote:
Somnambulist wrote:
It's pretty hysterical watching a bunch of rich white people like Streep tell everyone that they aren't liberal enough when there is just no way in hell she didn't know about Harvey Weinstein.
$hertoo
Lordy, the hypocrisy of Hollywood. There's no WAY the older actresses who claim to have known nothing (e.g. Streep) actually knew nothing about the sexual harassment and assault going on. Maybe because that's what they grew up with, they thought that was just normal, and all the younger actresses should just shut up and earn their money. I really hope when Streep wins the best actress award this weekend (because I'm guessing she will), she says that she was wrong and that she's going to do better. That's what everyone in that damned industry needs to say.

If not, I guess we can content ourselves with the fact that Carrie Fisher is going to be watching from beyond and giving everyone who keeps quiet the middle finger.

Re: The VENT Thread

Posted: Mon Jan 08, 2018 12:24 pm
by Ballerina
Watched some of the GGs last night. It was excruciating. Good grief, are there no good men in this world who need to be pointed out? I don't doubt that some women struggle to be recognized, to ward off harassment, abuse, and worse. I just hope this was not a costume party night to draw attention to themselves. I switched off at 10 p.m. to watch Lana Turner in The Bad and the Beautiful on TCM.

Re: The VENT Thread

Posted: Mon Jan 08, 2018 2:17 pm
by stark
A little recap from the Golden Globes in case you missed it....

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Re: The VENT Thread

Posted: Mon Jan 08, 2018 2:46 pm
by starrydreamer
Ballerina wrote:Watched some of the GGs last night. It was excruciating. Good grief, are there no good men in this world who need to be pointed out? I don't doubt that some women struggle to be recognized, to ward off harassment, abuse, and worse. I just hope this was not a costume party night to draw attention to themselves. I switched off at 10 p.m. to watch Lana Turner in The Bad and the Beautiful on TCM.
I didn't bother to watch. My husband hates awards shows and I had subjected him to three straight nights of figure skating, so I decided it was time for him to watch what he wanted.

However, I was really happy that Big Little Lies won so much - it was such a gripping series. I was also happy with Aziz Ansari's and Marvellous Mrs Maisel's wins.

Re: The VENT Thread

Posted: Mon Jan 08, 2018 2:59 pm
by Somnambulist
starrydreamer wrote:I didn't bother to watch. My husband hates awards shows and I had subjected him to three straight nights of figure skating, so I decided it was time for him to watch what he wanted.
They are the worst.

The only good moment in any awards show was when Maynard refused to accept Tool's Grammy award.

Re: The VENT Thread

Posted: Mon Jan 08, 2018 4:06 pm
by starrydreamer
Somnambulist wrote:
starrydreamer wrote:I didn't bother to watch. My husband hates awards shows and I had subjected him to three straight nights of figure skating, so I decided it was time for him to watch what he wanted.
They are the worst.

The only good moment in any awards show was when Maynard refused to accept Tool's Grammy award.
I like the feeling of validation when a show I like wins. :lol: :lol: Other than that, I've watched less and less of the awards shows over the years. The hosts are always super awkward, even when they're normally funny and entertaining people. I can check out the fashion on the internets, and Buzzfeed will tell me if I miss anything iconic.

Re: The VENT Thread

Posted: Thu Jan 11, 2018 11:04 am
by starrydreamer
I had almost a week of my kid not being sick, but he's home sick today. He needs oxygen support and has a cough and a runny nose. He's watched so much tv in the last month that his brain is probably going to rot out of his head, but so it goes.

Not to mention the health insurance. Before we moved, we hit our out-of-pocket max... but then we moved and got new insurance through my husband's job, and we surely hit the out-of-pocket after his hospital stay. But now it's a new year and a new deductible and out-of-pocket max, and I'm pretty sure we've hit both already. That's about $12,000 in medical costs that we're going to have to pay... but of course, the bills arrive when they arrive and we won't really know the cost until they do.

But what's the alternative? Not going to the doctor and letting our kid die? Parents of medically fragile kids get especially screwed under our health insurance system, and considering it's not our fault that our kids were born with dysfunctional bodies, it really sucks.

Re: The VENT Thread

Posted: Thu Jan 11, 2018 1:39 pm
by stark
starrydreamer wrote: But what's the alternative? Not going to the doctor and letting our kid die?
Sorry, but I'm just never sure how to react to these posts of yours, they sound so intimate about such a sensitive personal situation, the very life of your child. I'm guessing, actually hoping, that you're aiming your message at some very close personal friends here that you've met in-person, not the general public at large reading a WWW horsey forum with occasional sidetracks thrown in.

That said, are we suppose to feel bad for your kid and send prayers or should we be feeling even worse for the parents who need to come up with $12K? Are you really asking us what's the alternative or was that just you being rhetorical?

Dazed and confused at what the internet delivers to us.

Be well.

Re: The VENT Thread

Posted: Thu Jan 11, 2018 1:51 pm
by starrydreamer
stark wrote:
starrydreamer wrote: But what's the alternative? Not going to the doctor and letting our kid die?
Sorry, but I'm just never sure how to react to these posts of yours, they sound so intimate about such a sensitive personal situation, the very life of your child. I'm guessing, actually hoping, that you're aiming your message at some very close personal friends here that you've met in-person, not the general public at large reading a WWW horsey forum with occasional sidetracks thrown in.

That said, are we suppose to feel bad for your kid and send prayers or should we be feeling worse for the parents who need to come up with $12K? Are you really asking us what's the alternative or was that just you being rhetorical?

Dazed and confused at what the internet delivers to us.

Be well.
I'm being rhetorical. You don't have to answer.

And I'm actually being pretty general about my son's problems. They aren't super personal. I don't think I've even mentioned the state I live in. I'm very aware that you don't need to be a member of the forum to read any part of the forum. I'm here to vent. No one needs to feel bad for me or my kid. I'm not looking for pity. Maybe commiseration on how cruddy the health insurance system in the US is, but honestly, I don't care if anyone even responds.

And yes, I have loved ones who I vent to as well, in much more detail, and not on this board. I guess I just need multiple outlets. There's something to be said about ranting rather anonymously to strangers.

I'm sorry if that confuses you.